My fellow blogger friend, Tessa, just posted a link to another fantastic post that I feel I have to keep going. It warrants sharing over and over until every mother on the planet has it sunk into her brain... So check out this post entitled, "Why You're Never Failing as a Mother."
My favorite quote from the whole thing... "Feeling like you also need to keep on top of scrapbooking, weight loss, up-cycled onesies, handprints, crock pot meals, car seat recalls, sleeping patterns, poo consistency, pro-biotic supplements, swimming lessons, electromagnetic fields in your home and television exposure, is like trying to knit on a rollercoaster – it’s fucking hard."
Are your kids getting fed? Do they have clothes? Do they smile occasionally? Yes? Then you're doing fine.
There are definitely ups and downs to motherhood. Trying to keep up with the Jones' is definitely one of the downs. There's enormous pressure out there from (unfortunately) other Mothers. It's hard not to see those around us with what looks like the ideal situation, and not try to measure up. Please, PLEASE resist the urge to do so. We (I) sometimes feel inadequate because I don't always meet the "standards" as far as breastfeeding, finances, the coolest toys, the nicest car, brand-name clothes, bilingual toddlers, and so on and so forth... Well, for all that I say this: My first son got teeth at 4 months of age (and used them), so I quit breastfeeding shortly thereafter. We adopted our second son, and therefore I (obviously) didn't have any milk come in at all for that one, and he's been formula fed from day one. I have no guilt about either one (Gasp!). I quit my big-girl job a year ago to be home with my kids. No I didn't get fired or laid off, so yes, it was a voluntary decision to have a way smaller balance in our bank account. Also something I'm not sorry about, or harbor any guilt over. My kids have fun with the toys they have, they get around fine in the car I drive, they do have brand-name clothes, but they're almost 100% 2nd hand, I'm thrilled if they learn English properly, and if they want to learn a 2nd, 3rd, or 4th language they're welcome to do so, and teach me too. By someone's standards my kids are far from perfect. But I like them just fine, and since they're mine, mine is the opinion that matters.
Besides, my Dad always says, "When you're perfect, there's nowhere to go but down." I like the fact that my kids have the opportunity to feel what it's like to climb up instead of down...
Thanks for stopping by,